7 Signs That Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Is Attracted To Your Friend

“Mi dun tek yuh man so what, a me di man waan caz him she mi so fat.” Ladies can you imagine your bestfriend saying those words to you?   Men, how would you react if your ‘bredren’ came up to you, with you your girlfriend in hand chanting, “Well a nuh mi mek yuh catty waan stray… a nuh nuttin personal a jus so di playa play.” Not a pretty picture is it?  Losing a boyfriend or girlfriend to a close friend can be one of the most devastating things in your life.  Often times it starts off as just an innocent attraction, but if left to develop on its own it could lead to some major ‘Jerry Springer ’ drama.  Listed here are 7 warning signs that your boyfriend/girlfriend is attracted to your friend.

1.     Your partner constantly inquires about your friend

Correct me if I’m wrong, but there’s a thin line between being a genuinely caring and concerned person and being someone dangerously interested in another person.  If your boyfriend or girlfriend is asking you about your friends’ interests, whereabouts and other personal information then it may be an indication that he/she is drawn to your friend.

2.     Always wants your friend to join whenever you guys make plans to go out

There is nothing wrong with your girlfriend or boyfriend wanting to spend time with your friend but if he/she is only interested in going out when your friend is included then obviously your friend is upstaging you.

3.     Intense Staring

This is arguably the easiest thing to identify.  If you notice your partner looking at your friend in a sexual manner then it’s time for you the start avoiding situations in which your partner and friend are in the same setting.  As a precaution, never hang out with any of your friends that matches your boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s ideal type.  So, if your girlfriend likes tall and athletic guys do not bring her around your basketball-playing best friend.

4.     Gives your friend more attention

Can you imagine hanging out with your partner and friend only to be left out of the conversation? Truth be told, sometimes the friend may have more in common with your bf/gf, but still, it’s not expected that he/she totally forgets that you’re present.  Does your partner remember things about your friend that he doesn’t remember about you?  Is he/she always willing do favors for your friend?  If the answers to these questions are yes then you may be in for trouble.

5.     Develops a sudden/unexpected friendship with your friend

If after just a few days of being introduced to your friend your partner has somehow acquired your friend’s bb pin, phone number, email, Twitter and Facebook names, there is clearly a cause for concern.  In your presence, they seem like strangers but occasionally you hear your bf/gf make mention of conversations/scenarios that you knew nothing about. Watch out for nick names that your partner has for your friend or the inside jokes they share between themselves.  By now you should have seen Keyshia Cole’s Trust and Believe music video, so keep your guards up.

6.     Flirts with your friend

Sometimes we try to convince ourselves that our significant other and friend would not be bold enough to flirt in our presence.  But guess what! It happens.  Often times this ‘flirtationship’ is disguised as just a playful friendship.  For example, your girlfriend may ask to be lifted by your friend or she always wants to see his abs.  On the flip side, your boyfriend may enjoy tickling your friend or playfully teasing her about her looks even though she’s gorgeous.

7.     Wants to have a threesome with your friend

This is as explicit as it gets. During the course of your relationship you may opt to switching things up a bit by having a ménage a trois.  That’s understandable.  However, if your girlfriend or boyfriends promptly suggests your friend, without any hesitation, then it’s a sure sign that your significant other ‘did want up yuh friend body longtime’.

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12 thoughts on “7 Signs That Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Is Attracted To Your Friend

  1. olaniran paul

    my name is paul,i’m datin a gurl actually,i got admission last yr,buh along d line,dis gurl start avin attraction 2 my best friend in my absence,and it’s killin me softly,they both go out together n do tinz together,i stil love her madly,what do u advice me 2 do 2 get her back?or should i just 4get her and move on wit my life?i rili nid ur advice

    1. DaBerryShow Post author

      You should confront her about it. Just ask her. Keep calm. Try not to show any emotion. Pay close attention to her reaction. If she says she is attracted then you will have to just move on. You could also talk to your best friend and ask him to back off a lil.

    2. Jovaun Black

      Hey Paul,
      Ok, I have been in a situation like THIS ONE, but it was only because I was always being ignored and the friend is always there. However, it was all just SOCIAL FUN and NOTHING SEXUAL, and it was suspected by my other half. What we did was to come together and discuss all that was happening. Yes it we did get a bit heated as we got mad/angry at each other but we did just that. Now, I said that to say this, talk about it with your lover and point it out to your bestie cause at the end of the day, your lover could be feeling left out. MAKE TIME FOR YOUR LOVER. And if it is someone you really, really love, then try to work it out instead of thinking along the line of breaking it. Because truth be told, everyone is and will always be attracted to somebody else, but that somebody else just so happen to be your friend. So talk.

  2. ann margaret

    is my boyfriend interested to one of my girlfriend? because last early February he asked her birthday….and then on march 6,2014 he asked me about her email…..he said in that way he could greet her by mail….and when i asked him are you interested to her….? he never reply…. and he was already on his mind what was he will give on her birthday which it was on april 1st…..i told him her boyfriend not even bother yet about her birthday and then he got mad….in short now we are no where….he decided to over our relationship ,,we are already a year now….thtas how it was easy for him? yes , i get jealous…..please help

    1. Jovaun Black

      Hi Ann Margaret,
      I would say that it is quite clear that he is (somewhat) interested in her. But not only to question him, but her too. Because a man will never be persistent and consistent in such thing if he is not being lead on.
      Now, even though you guys are no longer together, it is very much normal to still be in love with him and still have a feeling jealousy, as clearly you have not moved on emotionally. But my advise to you is this, think about it this way, is it really worth all this from you? Why am I still lingering around? Ask yourself these 2 questions that ONLY YOU can answer. Then regardless of how you feel (mad/angry, jealous, upset, sad etc), try to embrace those feelings. Meaning, if you should see him with somebody else, try to even be open and welcoming to them and let him go Say hi and bye. Cause the longer you refuse to accept the breakup, the more you will be stuck in that zone you don’t wanna be in, feeling jealous, unhappy/sad and upset/mad.

  3. KC McMillan

    I have been dating my friends Gf for about a year now…..this started with just chatting on whatsapp calling each other love then we ended up kissing nd making love….nd since then we have grown stronger nd stronger with our love


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